Let me start with the simple facts. I am your daughter. I am gay and I love you more than I can explain. I know you don’t understand or accept the fact that I am gay. That is ok. I’ve come to realize that not everyone will accept me. I can’t change people’s minds or views. I can’t open people’s hearts. That is not my job.
My job is to be me. The most authentic version of myself, and that is what I’m doing.
I’m genuinely happy for the first time in forever. I’ve found a partner and life that is such a perfect fit for all of the dreams I’ve held in my heart.
I’ve realized through the years that being gay is a disgrace to you. It’s something you can’t comprehend or accept. If your heart can’t love me in my entirety, then that is on your heart, not mine.
Lately I’ve learned the difference between acceptance and respect. While you do not have to accept my life and those in it, you do have to respect us. This is not a request. It is a demand. You’ve taught me since I was a child about the power of being respectful and treating others kindly. You must now listen to your own teachings and treat me and those in my life with the dignity we deserve.
I love and accept others for all that they are. You see, my job on this earth isn’t to judge others, fix others, or change people. My job is to show up each day giving kindness, grace, friendship, and love to those in my life. Isn’t your job to do the same?
I’m not going to quote scripture the way you so often do to validate the hate in your heart. I’m not going to ask you to change your faith, your views, or your beliefs. I am however, going to demand that your relationship and engagement with me be respectful. Your words and actions must display the same grace you give those that enter your church. I can guarantee you would never treat those that fill your church pews with the same disgust and hostility that you’ve shown me.
Think about all of the hateful words you’ve used to fill my life and my inbox. If I were to share them with the world, what would they say? Would they display a mother who loves her daughter? Would they display a woman who lives as Christ wishes? Or would they showcase a woman who is filled with hate, meanness, and disrespect for a daughter that she once loved and adored?
I want you in my life. I want to have a relationship with you. I love you.
I will end with a few more simple truths. You do not have to agree with my lifestyle. You do not have to agree with those I love. You do not have to be a part of my life. You don’t even have to love me.
All of those things are choices. You get to choose.
What is no longer a choice is my tolerance of the way you treat me. It’s no longer a request to be treated humanely, but a demand. It is non-negotiable.
You don’t have to love me in my entirety, but know that there are so many people that do.
Wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is married to the love of her life, Justin. She’s the mother to a kind-hearted daughter named Hattie, a rambunctious son named Hutson, and the baby and “Grand Finale” of the family, a son named Hyland. Chelsea recently left her job as a special education teacher in Indianapolis to become a stay-at-home-mom. Little did she know she'd soon be led back into the classroom. She recently accepted a position with Anderson University supervising student teachers. She has a deep love of teaching and has always enjoyed helping inspire students. She is a Ball State graduate but an Indiana University Hoosier at heart. Chelsea’s mother is her inspiration, as she always encouraged her to write. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. She decided to honor her mother's wishes. She started writing and sharing it with the world. It was one of the best decisions she's ever made.