Harsh Realities

October 12, 2020

The Deep Anxiety of Grief: It’s Complicated

I can’t stop. I’m in a groove. I’m getting things done.  I’m cleaning.  I’m purging.  I’m organizing.  I’m in constant motion.  I can’t stop. Stopping would mean acknowledging the grief. Acknowledging the date, a notable one. A number on the calendar signifying a special day, one that should include my mother. But it can’t and doesn’t because she’s gone. I know this reality, so I…

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My Dad, Making Dark Things Beautiful

My entire life my dad has purchased, renovated, and flipped houses. He has consistently purchased rundown, unmaintained, broken, dirty, and dark houses. As kids we’d gasp in horror looking at the chosen pieces of real estate selected by my father. Never understanding his vision or his insane desire to transform these less than mediocre houses. Houses others would abandon and run from, he was drawn…

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October 9, 2020

Outfits for a Funeral

After someone you love dies, you have no time to process or digest your new reality. Instead you are inundated with responsibility and choices.  Tasks you’d rather avoid.  Choices you’d rather not make. Decisions and responsibility you never wanted.  From caskets, to hymns, to dates and times and flowers. Your schedule is suddenly filled with harsh planning, and no time to catch your breath.  I…

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Recovering From Someone Else’s Addiction: Living for You and Finding Beauty Again

Have you ever held secrets that weren’t yours? Have you ever hid the evidence of someone else’s wrongdoings? Have you ever covered for someone else’s destruction and chaos? I have. For years, I worked diligently to hide the proof of someone else’s addictions. I worked effortlessly to cover his lies, his failures, and his annihilation.  In taking a vow, “in sickness and health”, I never…

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Chelsea Ohlemiller

Chelsea Ohlemiller

A thirty-something wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is a sappy romantic, coffee junkie, book collector, and person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She’s sarcastic, full of jokes, full of tears, and enjoys writing most when life gets messy or complicated. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. Through her grief journey, she decided to take her mother’s advice and share her writing with the world. One day she gained the courage to honor her mother's wishes and write. It turned out to be one of the best decisions she's ever made.

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