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A Place Large Enough to Hold the Grief

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No Idea What Is Coming

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While I stand here feeling a fraction of who I use $While I stand here feeling a fraction of who I used to be, simply reduced to tiny particles of what I once was, I have yet to find a space large enough to hold the grief of losing my mother. How odd is it that while in the same moment I’m feeling as if most of who I am has evaporated into the same air that holds my mother’s last breaths, I’m also feeling suffocated by the walls and people that surround me. I wonder, is there a place large enough to hold the grief of losing a mother? Is there a place large enough to hold both the’ never again’’s and the’ never will be’’s? Is there a space worthy enough of holding both the past memories and also the emptiness of the future? Is there a place that can hold all that was and all that will never be, simultaneously? Is there a place that can hold both the legacy and the loss– a place somewhere besides the innermost pieces of my heart and my soul? I thought maybe the cemetery would be this special and powerful space. It would seem that a place worthy enough to hold the bodies of those we love could also hold the grief and the pain of death, but it doesn’t, at least not in the way that I wish it would. I thought maybe the cemetery would be a place that could hold and keep my grief for me, so that once I left I’d hold only the memories, love, and legacy of my mother. I’ve found it’s not that simple. I carry all of it, always. There simply isn’t a place large enough to hold the grief of losing a mother. There isn’t a space that welcomes the love and the loss with the same intensity or recognition, besides right inside of me, besides right inside of all of us that know this harsh reality. There simply isn’t a space large enough or delicate enough to hold the grief of losing a mother. So it’s held delicately inside the hearts and souls of the ones the world calls motherless. It’s held invisible and tucked away, as if to not make outsiders uncomfortable or uneasy. There simply isn’t a place large enough to…CONTINUED IN COMMENTS…$

Grief will come and it will cause you to show up d

Grief will come and it will cause you to show up differently for the world around you. At first you show up messy and shattered. You show up hurting and full of longing. You show up wishing things were different and also knowing that they can’t be.

Grief will come and you will show up different to those around you. You will show up emotional and overwhelmed. You will show up angry and confused. You will show up unfamiliar to this new space you’ve found, a space that no longer includes someone you love.

Grief causes you to show up differently. You show up differently to the store, to work, to church, into every event you attend. You show up differently because you are different. You are no longer the person you once were. Grief has given you a new before and after.

Grief causes you to show up differently because suddenly everything seems foreign and unfamiliar. You show up differently because you feel as if you’re walking on rocky ground, unable to find your footing, unable to stand without support and even then it feels nearly impossible.

Grief causes you to show up differently and for a long time it seems that the different is an awful kind of different. It seems that you are now a shell of a person, one who is hopeless and full of fear. It seems you are a person who holds so much more of a burden than of beauty.

But I promise you friend, hope comes.
Comfort comes.
Peace comes.
Love remains.
The light begins to shine again.
And then one day you find yourself stronger, still constantly in pursuit of healing, but showing up differently.

You show up full of grace for every person you come in contact with. You show up full of compassion because you know most of the battles people face are silently tucked away in their hearts. You show up full of empathy because you have known great pain and therefore you acknowledge great pain. You show up full of patience because you know people need time in a hurried world that often doesn’t allow for it.

Grief causes you to show up differently and at first that seems like a brutal transformation. What you can’t see or visualize is the way it will manifest into a makeover of grace and of love.
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Today, honor the blessing that you’re a daughter

Today, honor the blessing that you’re a daughter too...even if your mother is in heaven. 💕
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Absences that are forever, hurt forever. #grief
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