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Grief: A Whole New Knowing

More than the Heart, More than the Soul, Grief Changes Everything

Grief: A Million Things

Did you know, I Forgive You?

Words Meant for Her and Heaven

A Grief She’s Afraid to Express

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After someone dies, suddenly people know their wis

After someone dies, suddenly people know their wishes and desires for you. Suddenly people become the voices of our lost loved ones.

You cry in grief.
“Your mother wouldn’t want you to be upset.”

You cry in pain.
“Your mother wouldn’t want you to cry.”

You make complicated decisions.
“Your mother wouldn’t do it that way.”

You have moments of stress and anxiety.
“Your mother wouldn’t want you to be stressed.”

You have moments of fear.
“Your mother wouldn’t want you to be fearful.”

“Your mother wouldn’t...”
“Your mother would never want…”
“Your mother would have wanted…”

Stop.
You don’t get to do that.

You don’t get to be her voice. You don’t get to be the voice of the lost.

She is gone.
You don’t get to use her voice, or claim you know her heart’s desires.

Her absence doesn’t give others permission to use her voice.
Not to ease emotion.
Not to eliminate discomfort.
Not to soothe, or guide, or persuade.

You don’t get to be the voice of the lost.
You don’t get to borrow the voice of those gone.
It remains theirs, always.

And you should know, when you try to steal it, borrow it, or use it, it stings. Though your intentions and heart might be pure and loving, it feels wrong and harsh. It hurts.

Let it be as it was. Let their influence, voice, and intentions remain independently theirs. That’s the way it’s supposed to be.

xox, Chels

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Grief brings a whole new knowing, a completely new

Grief brings a whole new knowing, a completely new set of knowledge and awareness. Life as you knew it, life as you planned it, life as it will be from now on, all transformed. All carefully crafted in a way that has depleted your path from the person you loved so dearly.

Grief delivers a whole new knowing, a new set of pain and longing only known by others who have experienced it. It is delicate and harsh at the exact same time. It wakes you up, a new kind of awakening. One you can’t plan for and one that will change with each day, each moment and each breath.

Grief brings a whole new knowing, a new sense of reflection and reminiscence. The kind of reflection that brings both joy and sorrow. The kind that brings both a smile and a tear. The kind known only by someone who’s experienced a forever absence. The kind that is hard to accept and even harder to live with indefinitely.

Grief delivers a whole new knowing, of life, of love, of faith. It forces you to reevaluate and recompose your future. It forces you to keep stepping into a life void of someone you love. It forces new feelings and new realities. It forces a new path and a new plan. It changes everything.

Grief comes with a whole new knowing.

A new knowing of love.
A new knowing of relationships.
A new knowing of faith.
A new knowing of hope.
A new knowing of time.
A new knowing of what’s important.
A new knowing of life.

Grief delivers a whole new knowing and life is never the same.

xox, Chels

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…sometimes my brain forgets… © Chelsea Ohlem

…sometimes my brain forgets…

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Have you ever noticed how much our lives intertwin

Have you ever noticed how much our lives intertwine with our mother’s. Every detail, every event, every emotion, every milestone. Our mothers are always there, so connected and involved, and proud.

Immediately, they are our protectors. They become our biggest advocate and evolve beautifully into the single most important person in our lives. They have a power and love that is undeniable. They become our lifeline. The one we confide in. The one who serves as our safe haven and our savior. We depend on their care, their love, and their expertise.

So, what happens when you lose a lifeline? What happens when you are stuck in the midst of the most difficult situation you’ve ever experienced and you can’t reach out to your protector, because they are the one who’s been stolen from you?

The person who used to provide love, guidance, and a means of escape from difficult situations is suddenly gone. You’re left there, stuck, without a way to escape the complex emotion, the heartbreaking reality, and the absence that you’re left with.

You’ve lost your lifeline. You’ve lost a piece of yourself and you’ve gained the need to survive on your own. You’ve gained the responsibility to keep going, without the person who housed your strength, courage and bravery. You lost the person and the rope that always pulled you in to safety. CONTINUED IN COMMENTS……

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