Grief’s Visit. Grief’s Team.

July 7, 2020

I lay in bed and close my eyes. I wait. I know it will find me eventually. It always does. 

The darkness. The grief. The emptiness. The heartbreak. They always come. Traveling together. 

I’ve had a great day, full of fun and family and joy. But that doesn’t matter. The darkness always finds me. It doesn’t steal the joy and happiness of the day, it simply transforms it for a short time. Reminding me of its power and its influence. 

The darkness. The grief. The emptiness. The heartbreak. They all demand to be noticed and felt. They demand to be kept, always. They creep up in the nighttime, when things are calm and quiet. They turn the silence to complicated chaos. Only this chaos is invisible. It is created and crafted in the mind and heart. Seen by noone. Felt intensely by you.

I lay here, gratefully praying for the goodness of this life, knowing shortly I will be reminded of the sorrow of this life too. I await their arrival. They always travel together. Grief’s team is a powerful one. 

Heartbreak. Emptiness. Sorrow. Regret. Sadness. Disbelief. Anger. Gratitude. They all work together as a delicate powerhouse. One built with love and joy and appreciation, but painted with loss. One that reminds us that we were once blessed with a great person and relationship. One that is both a blessing and a curse. 

I close my eyes tightly as I feel them wrap around my mind and heart. I welcome them. Shunning them would do no good, for they became a part of me many years ago. I acknowledge their visit. I acknowledge the emotion and angst that they bring.

The darkness. The grief. The emptiness. The heartbreak. All recognized and accepted. I breathe them in and exhale them out, over and over again. Eventually, I thank them for their visit and pray silently that between visits, they allow more time and more healing. Hoping that one day their visits will be few and far between. 

I roll over, catching a glimpse of the moon that illuminates the sky gorgeous hues of purple and orange. I look up. I smile. I whisper…I love you, always. I remember you, always. I think of you, always. 

You are missed with an intensity that cannot be denied or ignored. Both grief and love make sure of that. My favorite of those is love. 

xox, Chels

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One response to “Grief’s Visit. Grief’s Team.”

  1. Sophia says:

    I am visited at night as well. The light of day might distract for moments here and there but the loss of a mother is one greater than most can imagine if they have not experienced. Your first home the first heart beat you here the first love you feel. Your forever protector, your cheerleader. No there is no one that’s perfect what do you know in your heart that no one else would give their life for yours. A beautiful post. I pray those visitors begin to feel more like angels as she is there with you even though there are times we don’t feel it as well. It is never the same. Grief will be our companion forever. Blessings to you.xo

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A wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is a sappy romantic, coffee junkie, book collector, and person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She’s sarcastic, full of jokes, full of tears, and enjoys writing most when life gets messy or complicated. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. Through her grief journey, she decided to take her mother’s advice and share her writing with the world. One day she gained the courage to honor her mother's wishes and write. It turned out to be one of the best decisions she's ever made.

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