Harsh Realities

January 3, 2022

The Pain of Having a Mother in Heaven

I’m the woman who lives with the endless pain of having a mother in heaven.  I’m the friend with a pain that my friends understand. Though it’s a pain I wouldn’t want them to understand, it’s the pain of having a mother in heaven.  I’m the mother with an ache for all that my children are missing and all that my mother would have been…

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December 16, 2021

We Can’t Just Stay Who We Were

We can’t just stay who we were, grief has changed things. It has changed us. It has shifted elements of life and dismantled the person we once were. We can either acknowledge the unwanted change or ignore it. We didn’t choose loss but we can choose how we let the consequences of it impact our future.  We can’t just stay who we were, grief has…

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December 10, 2021

Holiday “You Should’s”

December sneaks in, quickly filling the world with lights, decorations and holiday cheer. Holiday cheer is magical, but when you have a grieving heart, the magic feels less like glittery sparkle and more like someone shining a spotlight on the empty space that you find yourself surrounded by. With the celebratory events and family festivities come the sympathetic “You-Should’s” of the people who find themselves…

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December 1, 2021

The Day Everything Changes– The Day We Meet Again

I’ve been focused on the wrong day, the day that changed everything. I’ve been focused on the one that is past tense, the one that changed my life and took yours. I’ve been focused on the day you died, the day that broke my heart and redirected my entire future. I’ve been looking back instead of looking forward. I think it’s one of grief’s greatest…

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Chelsea Ohlemiller

Chelsea Ohlemiller

A thirty-something wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is a sappy romantic, coffee junkie, book collector, and person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She’s sarcastic, full of jokes, full of tears, and enjoys writing most when life gets messy or complicated. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. Through her grief journey, she decided to take her mother’s advice and share her writing with the world. One day she gained the courage to honor her mother's wishes and write. It turned out to be one of the best decisions she's ever made.

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