Recovering From Someone Else’s Addiction: Living for You and Finding Beauty Again

Have you ever held secrets that weren’t yours? Have you ever hid the evidence of someone else’s wrongdoings? Have you ever covered for someone else’s destruction and chaos? I have. For years, I worked diligently to hide the proof of someone else’s addictions. I worked effortlessly to cover his lies, his failures, and his annihilation.  In taking a vow, “in sickness and health”, I never imagined the sickness that would find the man I married. The kind of sickness that no one understands, no one truly accepts, and one that everyone works fiercely to avoid and extinguish. Like a fire that suddenly sweeps through a house, quick and mighty, addiction is the same. If it’s not yours, you don’t see it coming. You can’t prepare or plan for it. It simply finds people, stealing the pieces that made them enjoyable, leaving nothing left that’s recognizable.  Eventually you’re left with nothing but a shell and broken promises. Surrounded by destruction, chaos, and legal matters more complicated than you ever could have imagined. Addiction is a complicated illness. One that silently creeps in abducting the person you know and love, and replacing them with something vile. Something mirroring evil. The harder you … Continue reading Recovering From Someone Else’s Addiction: Living for You and Finding Beauty Again