You are Different. You aren’t Her Anymore.

May 1, 2019

You are not the girl you once were. Thank heavens for that. You are not the insecure girl who believed everything those popular girls were spewing. You are older and wiser.

You believed them, but you shouldn’t have. You believed them when they told you how ugly you were. You believed them when they told you how worthless you were, how fat you were, how unpopular you were. You believed every word they said.

They tore you apart, insecurity by insecurity. They knew how to break you and you let them. You allowed them to win by believing their words, by valuing them. You continued to believe their hate, day after day. Why? Why did you hold their words at face value? Why did you value their opinion?

You believed them, for years. And for years you hated yourself. You picked apart your worthiness. You picked apart your value. You picked apart your life. All of it. Simply because you believed the lies and hate.

But then, one day you looked around. You took a long and hard look at yourself. You saw something different. You saw a girl who was determined to prove them wrong. You saw a girl who was imperfect, but also worthy.

You decided to take all of those words, and hate, and meanness and turn it into motivation and productivity. You decided the only voice you would listen to was your own, and those that love you. You decided to love yourself. You decided to embrace your flaws and imperfections because they make you unique and helped design your path.

One day you decided to believe in yourself. You decided to appreciate yourself. You decided to chase your dreams and quit letting all those harsh voices invade your mind and heart.

The day you stopped believing them is the day you became the most beautiful version of yourself. The day you stopped believing them is the day you became your truest version, the real and raw you.

You are unapologetically you, and that has made all of the difference.

xox, Chels

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2 responses to “You are Different. You aren’t Her Anymore.”

  1. “You saw a girl who was imperfect, but also worthy.” Love this so much.

    • chelseaohlemiller says:

      Thank you so much, Ashley! Most importantly, thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read my work! It’s so very much appreciated. xox, Chels

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A wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is a sappy romantic, coffee junkie, book collector, and person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She’s sarcastic, full of jokes, full of tears, and enjoys writing most when life gets messy or complicated. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. Through her grief journey, she decided to take her mother’s advice and share her writing with the world. One day she gained the courage to honor her mother's wishes and write. It turned out to be one of the best decisions she's ever made.

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